The initial nationwide solitary Cougars Convention is planned for the end of August in Silicon Valley, the Cougar Den is just a popular skit on “Saturday Night Live” and Courteney Cox will star in a unique tv program, “Cougar Town,” on ABC this autumn. Since 2005, when Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher popularized the partnership of an adult girl and a more youthful guy, it seems the U.S. has grown to become obsessed with calling ladies cougars and therefore popular culture is taking advantage of the slang. But where did the expression originate? And do females want to be called cougars, or do they discover the label degrading?
Lori Harasem, a woman that is 38-year-old in Lethbridge, Alberta, is involved to a guy 12 years more youthful than she and has now been known as a “cougar” as well as a “sugar mama” by her fiance’s friends.
She had not been flattered.
“To me, a cougar is – or individuals believe that it is – a mature woman that is hopeless, that she actually is searching for a more youthful guy to attract away,” she stated.
Harasem said that her fiance’s household has still maybe not accepted her because of her age. ” They simply assumed that we was going through a mid-life crisis,” she said that I couldn’t do better or.
Harasem also stated that labels and general negativity from others place strain on the relationship and created unnecessary anxiety.
She feels that making use of terms such as “cougar” is sexist. “[the word] ‘sugar mama’ is derogatory but ‘sugar daddy’ is not,” she stated. “there isn’t any term when it comes to man in that relationship [with a mature woman].”
Valerie Gibson, the writer of “Cougar: helpful information for old Women Dating Younger Men” (Key Porter, $12.95), agrees there is a double-standard. Continue reading “Cougars: just What’s in a label? The National Single Cougars that is first meeting”